Why Selfless Love Matters

“Love is never wasted, for its value does not rest upon reciprocity.” 

~C. S. Lewis

The most powerful emotion is, without a doubt, love. It comes in many different forms and, although the most recognizable form of love is the one with which we are most familiar with, the most powerful form of love, lives a softer existence. 

SELFLESS LOVE MEANING

Loving our significant other, friends and family is easy, since they usually respond in kind. Therefore, when we give our love, we get something in return. It’s an ideal situation. However, quiet, unassuming, selfless love, is the more powerful, yet a rather elusive sensation. It usually reveals itself when we do things out of the kindness of our hearts, not requiring or even expecting anything in return.

The power of unconditional, selfless love lies in the fact that it’s not motivated by a reward or a benefit. If your aim is to make the world a slightly better place, there are many things you can do, however, only one is guaranteed to have an impact. Selfless love in the form of kindness and compassion.

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GREAT EXPECTATIONS

While the idea of being more compassionate is appealing to many people, it is often quite difficult to consider the feelings of individuals we don't know while making a conscious (or sometimes unconscious) decision to behave in a specific way.  Often, it is our “inner selves” which impede the way of true compassion.

However, it is only when we mindfully step outside of ourselves, look beyond our own busy lives and recognize how our words, actions or behaviors affect the lives of others, we realize that we have the power to make a tremendous difference – a positive difference – not only in other people’s lives, but also in our own.

RECIPROCITY AS A LIFE CURRENCY

Although it doesn’t cost anything to be kind to others, the idea of putting others first, without any expectation of reciprocity, has become quite a foreign notion in a world where selfishness and greed are constantly rewarded. Somehow, we have been led to believe we must be ruthless, with keen instincts to compete against one another for resources and to accumulate power and possessions.

Our individualistic and competitive society has come to expect that, if we are sympathetic to one another, it’s usually because we have ulterior motives. If we are decent to each other, it’s only because we have succeeded in controlling and overcoming our biological instinct of brutality and selfishness..

Yet, nothing could be further from the truth. Although for centuries, philosophers have debated whether human beings are fundamentally good or evil, it was the philosopher, Marcus Aurelius who described quite simply, “Waste no more time arguing what a good man should be. Be one.” These words, written nearly two thousand years ago cut to the core of what it means to be a compassionate human being.  

Moreover, recent research, by a diverse group of scholars from Harvard and Yale has found that our innate instinct is to be selfless and that people are willing to make sacrifices for the common good.

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FORWARD SELFLESS LOVE

Selfless love creates an instant connection, whether brief or eternal, which makes people feel like their existence matters, that they matter. Even the smallest act of kindness can have far-reaching consequences. Being kind to others, often also teaches us to be kind to ourselves. Because, love, when freely given to others, very often finds its way back to us.

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Show you care with a gift from Mudita ♥ 

Giving someone a mindful alarm clock, like Mudita Bell or Mudita Harmony can be a thoughtful and practical way to show your love and appreciation for them. By giving someone an alarm clock as a gift, you are not only showing you care, but also supporting their efforts to prioritize their sleep and lead a healthy, balanced life. Proper restful sleep is crucial for maintaining physical and mental health, and can help to improve mood, cognitive function, and overall quality of life. By giving the gift of an alarm clock, you are demonstrating your concern for your loved one's well-being and helping them to prioritize the things that matter most.

Overall, giving someone an alarm clock can be a small, but meaningful gesture which demonstrates your care and affection for them.